How to Avoid Politics Blowing Up Relationships Over the Holidays

While many are anticipating the upcoming holidays to be merry and bright, there are others who dread the political elephant in the room at their family gatherings where divergent opinions are a reality. As a practicing psychotherapist, I’ve noticed it coming up a lot lately, the question of how to enjoy the traditional family gatherings while avoiding landmines that have the potential to not only blow up the festive environment but have real relationship impact.

Let’s begin by acknowledging that this time of year can be tricky for many already. Loneliness or grief of a recently lost loved one can sting during this time of year. And many face challenges returning to their family of origin “nests” because of unresolved issues or problematic relationship dynamics. This comes up annually in my work, regardless of the political climate; questions about how to set boundaries and even possibly remove oneself gracefully. Adding in the vastly divergent energetic political positions people have taken lately makes the reality of fraught dinner tables around the country a distinct possibility.

The post-election emotional reality.

You are thrilled at the result, panicked by the result, ambivalent about the result or otherwise. The trouble brews when people on opposite ends of the continuum come together. Strong feelings either way may trigger a strong desire for discussion which with a group of like-minded individuals, would probably occur…